"Love" - Maybe Not



 "Codependency is a dysfunctional relationship dynamic where one person assumes the role of 'the giver,' sacrificing their own needs and well-being for the sake of the other, 'the taker.'” - Psychology Today

Yes, as a Tarot reader I know there are many healthy relationships among partners. 

But also I too often pick up the extreme pain of connections which erase one of the parties' sense of self, worth and even desire to live. The fancy term for that is "codependency." Typically it has roots in a difficult childhood. The setting embedded chaotic patterns of thinking about yourself and behaving. The codependent keeps replicating them. 

Like alcohol and food disorders codependency can be a downright addiction. Those are the most tragic calls I receive. A human being can't let go of a relationship that has become all-consuming - and self-defeating. They "swear off" and then go back.

The good news is this: There is a solution. Professionals are aware of this syndrome and have been trained to treat it. In rehab and outpatient intensive therapy it usually comes up in addressing standard addictions. Also there is therapy. In addition, there are free in-person and on-line meetings of Codependents Anonymous. 

Codependents Anonymous is a 12-step program that builds on the wisdom of Alcoholics Anonymous which was founded in the 1930s. It leverages the tools of fellowship, spirituality, education and talk to guide the suffering to creating safe, satisfying and mutually beneficial connections. 

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